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Marriage ….

Marriage. It becomes a status. It is very important, so it will be questioned at every time we fill any application form in. There is always a box/statement with subject “marriage/marital status” we should fill in. And it is very important, so that people keep asking question about it every time we meet at any occasion.  “When are you getting married? Are you married? Why aren’t you married yet? What are you waiting for? Come on ..tik tok tik tok…..” Those are common questions that are always been expressed to any single, not only to women but men over 20s. The pressure is on and on, especially when you are already over 30’s and have a job. It becomes too much when you have owned a house, then a car, etc. It seems like getting married is one thing that must be done for every one, no exception.  Yes, I do believe in marriage institutions. In fact, in my own religion, marriage is a highly recommended act, it becomes obligatory when there is a chance of falling into sin.

But, marriage is not that simple as meeting people then falling in love. In fact, falling in love itself is not that easy. Marriage is about commitment, long term commitment…  No …long term still has got a due/expired time. I would say it is about the whole life commitment, “till death do us apart”. And finding people who are committed to live with you for the whole life, in bad and good, in health and sick, till you both grow old; it is not easy.

And nowadays, relationship is getting harder. When you live in the world that everything is measured by speed and material things, it is more difficult to find people who is real and being able to be loyal for good.

People change so easily. When you are in love with someone, you will do everything to make him/her believe that you are the best human in the world for him/her. You will do crazy things only for that one person. You promise that you will be there always on any conditions. Your eyes and heart…in fact, your whole world are only for that one. Then, one day, time is up, every thing changes. Your heart changes, your eyes see others more appealing or challenging. Then you treat your loved one differently. No more affectionate and warmth looks in your eyes, no more smooth as butter in words, there are only criticism, judgments, disagreements, conflicts and fights. The tense is becoming unbearable when it relates to another people and you want to leave for that other people.  And if your  are too afraid to leave (for any reason), but your love has flown away to another destination,  things become uglier. Your loved ones become enemies, persons who used to be your centre of love become the ones who stop you from giving and receiving loves. You will feel like a zombi with full hatred to live.

Well… maybe that is too pessimistic opinion. Maybe…just maybe there are people who are capable to be loyal for one person in their whole life. They will stay with you even when you are getting old, getting fat, more wrinkle and grey hair, lose your teeth, etc. Because you aware that when your love one reaches that point of age/condition, it is same as you. No matter how they change, they are still same person who you met many years ago. And if you love them many years ago, you will keep loving them, or at least try hard to keep the flame in your heart. That is the real challenge in our love life.

Marriage isn’t about winning. It’s about lasting. ∼ Mark Gorman ∼

 

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New Year’s Resolution

6th January 2008

This maybe a little bit late to talk about “New Year’s Resolution”, but it is still month of January 2018 and like people say “better late than never”.

Every new year, some of us try to make a resolution. Some people may achieve it, some reach “half way” to achieve it, other probably fail it or forget about it. Then, the next year, when a new year comes again, we make a new resolution (again). And so on …. :).

Is it important to make a New Year’s Resolution? Many people say if we want to start new or good thing, just start it as soon as possible, why do we need a new year or next year to start it? That could be true, but others think that new year could be a good moment to start new things or as a fresh start to set up targets, because we (mostly) have a new spirit or hope about almost everything. It is not only about job/career, family, love, school, habits, but the most of important thing, in my opinion, is about ourselves. We have a new hope that we will be a better person this year and do better things than last year. A new hope that we wish will bring a new opportunity as when we have hope, everything is possible. And a new year as a new chapter of the book, blank pages that are ready to be written as you wish.

So, let’s create the most interesting and inspiring writings about our life on our pages.

Happy New Year!

 

 

 

 

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How do we know if she/he is “The One”?

The One ….. Is she/he “The One”?. I guess that all singles keep asking that question every time they meet a potential person. How can we identify that someone is or will become our “The One”? People say that love is blind, so we can not or better not rely on only our feeling when decide that someone is “The One”. But, without considering our feeling about someone, we can not say if some one is “The One”. Ideally, head and heart say the same thing when we decide that some one is “The One”. But, ideal condition is very rare to happen in this life.

One time, you meet a person who your head says “she/he is The One”, but your heart says “she/he is not”; another time, it happens the other way around. When that happens so many times, one day we could only think; “Have I made any mistake? Have I missed my “The One”?

If we asked married couples about this “The One” things questions, I am pretty sure that they will say that their wife/ husband’s of course their “The One”. But, when we ask that kind of questions to divorcees, most of them probably would say that they have made mistakes; apparently, his/her ex was not “The One”.

So, back to the original question… How can we identify that some one is our “The One”? How can we avoid to make any mistake when decide whether some one is “The One” or not? How can we be sure that you and someone are meant for each other? Many theories about that, but sometimes theories are not convincing enough :).

A weird question that suddenly pops up in my head in the middle of the night as a result of “eyes could not sleep, while the brain keeps working, this time in odd and silly way”.