Posted in English, Thought/Story

Marriage ….

Marriage. It becomes a status. It is very important, so it will be questioned at every time we fill any application form in. There is always a box/statement with subject “marriage/marital status” we should fill in. And it is very important, so that people keep asking question about it every time we meet at any occasion.  “When are you getting married? Are you married? Why aren’t you married yet? What are you waiting for? Come on ..tik tok tik tok…..” Those are common questions that are always been expressed to any single, not only to women but men over 20s. The pressure is on and on, especially when you are already over 30’s and have a job. It becomes too much when you have owned a house, then a car, etc. It seems like getting married is one thing that must be done for every one, no exception.  Yes, I do believe in marriage institutions. In fact, in my own religion, marriage is a highly recommended act, it becomes obligatory when there is a chance of falling into sin.

But, marriage is not that simple as meeting people then falling in love. In fact, falling in love itself is not that easy. Marriage is about commitment, long term commitment…  No …long term still has got a due/expired time. I would say it is about the whole life commitment, “till death do us apart”. And finding people who are committed to live with you for the whole life, in bad and good, in health and sick, till you both grow old; it is not easy.

And nowadays, relationship is getting harder. When you live in the world that everything is measured by speed and material things, it is more difficult to find people who is real and being able to be loyal for good.

People change so easily. When you are in love with someone, you will do everything to make them believe that they are the best human in the world for them. You will do crazy things only for them. You promise that you will be there with you always on any conditions. Their eyes and heart…in fact, their world are only for you. Then, one day, time is up, every thing changes. Your heart changes, your eyes see others more appealing or challenging. Then you treat your loved one differently. No more affectionate and warmth looks in your eyes, no more smooth as butter in words, there are only criticism, judgments, disagreements, conflicts and fights. The tense is becoming unbearable when it relates to another people and they want to leave you for that other people.  And if you are too afraid to leave (for any reason), but your love has flown away to another destination,  things become uglier. Your loved ones become enemies, persons who used to be your centre of love become the ones who stop you from giving and receiving loves. You will feel like a zombi with full hatred to live.

Well… maybe that is too pessimistic opinion. Maybe…just maybe there are people who are capable to be loyal for one person in their whole life. They will stay with you even when you are getting old, getting fat, more wrinkle and grey hair, lose your teeth, etc. Because you aware that when your love one reaches that point of age/condition, it is same as you. No matter how they change, they are still same person who you met many years ago. And if you love them many years ago, you will keep loving them, or at least try hard to keep the flame in your heart. That is the real challenge in our love life.

Marriage isn’t about winning. It’s about lasting. ∼ Mark Gorman ∼

 

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Posted in English, Hotel/Accommodation, Reviews, Singapore, Travel

Mandarin Orchard Singapore (5*)

I stayed in this hotel for my short getaway on my birthday. It was quite sudden trip as I was at first not that enthusiastic to celebrate my birthday. But, I did really need to escape from this city :). Also I remembered that I had Kris Flyer mileage that would expire soon if I did not use it and no longer be able to be extended (again).

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Lobby Area (taken from hotel’s website)

So, I booked a flight by redeeming my Kris Flyer mileage and searched hotel via Agoda in Orchard area as I did only want to window-shop (the plan … lol). Then, I chosen this Mandarin Orchard (this was my second stay in this hotel). This hotel is actually  a little bit old building, but most hotels in Orchard area are quite old I think, some got renovated but mostly not the whole building or refurbished.

The best thing about this hotel is its location; it’s in the heart of Orchard road. Shopping malls are within walking distance. Mandarin Gallery at its doorstep, right next to 313@Somerset, Ngee Ann City and Takashimaya, and across the hotel is the Paragon. Then, closed to MRT station; there are two MRT stations located less than 10 minutes walking, which are Orchard and Somerset. Also it is easy to get food around here. If you do not want to dine in the mall’s foodcourt or restaurants, there are many simple/small restaurants near hotel, as well as upscale restaurants.

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View from my room; Takashimaya Shopping Mall

And, as it was my birthday, I got a surprise birthday cake from the hotel along with “happy birthday” note. That was the most wonderful treatment I ever received, and I was happily surprised :).

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Surprise Birthday Cake from Mandarin Orchard

Considering its location and compare to other hotels in this area, I think Mandarin Orchard offers good rate. If you are planning to travel to Singapore and looking for accommodation, I recommend you to check their best rate out via Agoda.com or you may compare the rate at Booking.com.

Detail Information:

Mandarin Orchard Singapore

333 Orchard Road Singapore 238867

Phone No: +65 6737 4411   Email: orchard@meritushotels.com

http://www.meritushotels.com/mandarin-orchard-singapore/index.html

 

Posted in English, Movies, Reviews

The Green Mile

I love watching this movie. Even after several times, I still find it is interesting movie and worth to watch. That is not only because how good the late Michael Clarke Duncan plays as John Coffey, …. But most important is the story about John Coffey itself. I know it is only a fiction adapted from Steven King’s novel, still it affects me and make me thinking about it further.

The story about John Coffey is the most an unfortunate-tragic life event that could happen to any man. As a human being, he is blessed with a supernatural magical power in which he could make a life miracle. He cures Paul Edgecomb’s (played by Tom Hanks) bladder infection, brings back to life of Mr. Jingles (a mouse that killed by Percy Wetmore, by crushing him with his boots) and heals the cancer infected wife of Warden Hal Moores, head of the death row prison.  He also has the most pure, innocent and saintly soul as a child, who trapped in the gigantic and powerful frame black man (almost 7 ft tall). As he’s mentally like an innocent child, he is then unable to defend himself when he is found crying with two dead white little girls on his laps and their blood’s all over his hands; by that time, he’s actually trying to revive them, but too late. For all people who seen it, and for his inability to deny it, he is then being convicted of raping and murdering that two little girls and sentenced to death. Even though John then reveals the truth about the crime physically to Paul, Paul can do nothing to release him from the death penalty. When Paul asks John what he wants him to do, John explains that he wants to be executed and die so he can finally rest in peace from the cruelty and pains of the world.

John says, “I’m tired, Boss. Tired of being on the road, lonely as sparrow in the rain. I’m tired of never having a buddy to be with, to tell me where we’re going to, coming from or why. Mostly, I’m tired of people being ugly to each other”.

What make me continued to be sad and can’t stop weeping is how such beautiful soul with miracle ability is being treated as criminal; how life could be so harsh and cruel to him; why fate doesn’t give him a little favor/mercy? It’s just too sad and painful story; good that it is only a fiction.

Posted in English, Thought/Story

New Year’s Resolution

6th January 2008

This maybe a little bit late to talk about “New Year’s Resolution”, but it is still month of January 2018 and like people say “better late than never”.

Every new year, some of us try to make a resolution. Some people may achieve it, some reach “half way” to achieve it, other probably fail it or forget about it. Then, the next year, when a new year comes again, we make a new resolution (again). And so on …. :).

Is it important to make a New Year’s Resolution? Many people say if we want to start new or good thing, just start it as soon as possible, why do we need a new year or next year to start it? That could be true, but others think that new year could be a good moment to start new things or as a fresh start to set up targets, because we (mostly) have a new spirit or hope about almost everything. It is not only about job/career, family, love, school, habits, but the most of important thing, in my opinion, is about ourselves. We have a new hope that we will be a better person this year and do better things than last year. A new hope that we wish will bring a new opportunity as when we have hope, everything is possible. And a new year as a new chapter of the book, blank pages that are ready to be written as you wish.

So, let’s create the most interesting and inspiring writings about our life on our pages.

Happy New Year!

 

 

 

 

Posted in English, Poems, Quotes & Poems

I am drowning …..

This illogical thought,

is like illusion.

This unstoppable thinking about you,

has darkened my head with cloudiness.

Blinded me ….

How can I stop this desire?

How can I hold this ecstasy?

The crave that always be there….

Is never coming to end.

I am drowning ….. into my own fantasy.

I don’t know how much longer I can stand.

There’s something about you that I  can not fight.

It’s just like drug that I always need.

An addiction that I can not handle.

I am puzzled ….

Lost ….

Defeated ….

…. yet, unwilling to be rescued.

Posted in English, Thought/Story

How do we know if she/he is “The One”?

The One ….. Is she/he “The One”?. I guess that all singles keep asking that question every time they meet a potential person. How can we identify that someone is or will become our “The One”? People say that love is blind, so we can not or better not rely on only our feeling when decide that someone is “The One”. But, without considering our feeling about someone, we can not say if some one is “The One”. Ideally, head and heart say the same thing when we decide that some one is “The One”. But, ideal condition is very rare to happen in this life.

One time, you meet a person who your head says “she/he is The One”, but your heart says “she/he is not”; another time, it happens the other way around. When that happens so many times, one day we could only think; “Have I made any mistake? Have I missed my “The One”?

If we asked married couples about this “The One” things questions, I am pretty sure that they will say that their wife/ husband’s of course their “The One”. But, when we ask that kind of questions to divorcees, most of them probably would say that they have made mistakes; apparently, his/her ex was not “The One”.

So, back to the original question… How can we identify that some one is our “The One”? How can we avoid to make any mistake when decide whether some one is “The One” or not? How can we be sure that you and someone are meant for each other? Many theories about that, but sometimes theories are not convincing enough :).

A weird question that suddenly pops up in my head in the middle of the night as a result of “eyes could not sleep, while the brain keeps working, this time in odd and silly way”.

Posted in English, Thought/Story

Sadly, you are not the real you!

In life, we often meet people who are not the real person as seen as they appear in front of us. People who seem nice, kind, always smile and speak good things about us, when around us. But, when they are not around us, they talk different things; worse, they are talking about what suppose to be secret that we trust them to be kept safe. How and when can we really trust other people? We have known some people for quite some times and believed that they could be trusted through some our life’s experiences together.  Somehow, over the time, they have changed, sometimes in the way that we could not believe that they could be the person that they become right now. We could not believe that they could talk that way about us; bad things that either they realize it or not, it hurts us. People change, true. I read it often, in fact, I ever wrote that before. But, when the significant changes happen to people which affect us in terrible way, it is really shocking. We do not believe it; feel that it is more like bad dreams that will go away when we wake up. Then, when we realize that it is really happening, we could only think about it sadly; sometimes amaze to see that is the real color of the person who we thought we know for long time.

That makes me thinking, are there anyone who we can really trust completely? After how long until we can see the true color of other people? How do we know that people will not talk bad things behind us or stab our back? Should we always be worry or alert every time we interact with other people? I just wondering ….