When it comes to single women over 40, there are a lot of stories to dig behind the reasons why they are still single.
Story number one. She met her love of life when she was in college. They were both in love that much that they then went to her parents to ask permission to get married after finishing the school. Her parents seemed reluctant to give a bless since the man did not have same faith/religion nor race, but they asked them to finish the school first, then had a discussion about that later. After college, she and her man got a good job, then came to her parents again for their marriage plan. At that moment, her parents could not hide the real reason and refused to bless them. She was shocked, sad and heartbroken. She was never anticipated this coming. She thought that all were fine as her parents have known this man quite long time. But, she had no courage to disobey her parents. She still kept the relationship with him afterwards, as they both still loved each other. By time, he started to loose faith in their relationship and they decided to go to their own way. A few years later he got married with other woman, she’s still single. In several years, he has got 2 children from her marriage, she’s still single. And she remains single in her mid of 50’s at this moment. Changing heart is not as easy as people says, she admits it.
Story number two. When she was in early 25’s, someone proposed to her. They were closed friend and she tried to build more feeling for him. But, she could not fall in love with him, no matter how hard she tried. Therefor, she told him that she could not marry him. Many years later, he has found another woman to be married with. She is still single at her late 40’s. Some people said that women should not refused any marriage proposal that came to her or she would be get difficulty to find a man to marry later. They said before giving a marriage proposal to woman, man generally has assured that they both had something special between them. The proposal is only a way to validate their relationship. I understand that this opinion is still believed by certain society, although I find this statement is absurd. Marriage is about living with one person for your whole life. There is a reason the words “till death do us part” being used when people get married. If you are not sure whether you will be able to live with that person until your end of life, that is a good enough to not having the marriage. Life is hard enough to be spent with anyone whom you don’t want to be with. Don’t you think so?