What is emotional/psychological abuse? It’s any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. Emotional abuse can take many forms. Emotional abuse doesn’t leave physical scars, but it will diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth. People know what physical abuse is, but when it comes to emotional abuse, most people tend to think there’s much more of a ‘grey area’. Sometimes they (the abuser & receiver) are not sure whether they are involved in emotional abuse. But the point of whether someone’s behavior is abusive is how it makes you feel. These are several signs or examples that you are being emotionally abused:
- They regularly disregard your ideas and beliefs.
- They always search for our flaws, mistakes & shortcomings. Or keep reminding us of them.
- They make excuses for their behavior, try to blame others, and have difficulty apologizing.
- They accuse you of being too sensitive.
- They are emotionally distant or emotionally unavailable most of the time.
- They blame you for their problems, life difficulties, or unhappiness.
- They are constantly correcting your behavior.
- They put you down in front of others.
- They minimize your hopes, dreams and achievements.
- They repeatedly ignore your requests and cross your boundaries.
- They punish you with abandonment or neglect.
- They invalidate or deny their emotionally abusive behavior when being confronted.
- You feel like you need their permission to make any decision.
- They make subtle threats or negative remarks with the intent to frighten or control you.
- They don’t seem to notice or care about your feelings.
Emotional abuse can happen anywhere, at home between parent – children, husband – wife, or brothers – sisters, at social network between friends and even at workplace between bosses – employees or between colleagues.
This post is just to remind any of us. If our behavior reflected in any of those term or we are receiving any kind of that behavior, the first important thing is acknowledgement. Most of abusers won’t recognize it easily that they have done something wrong, as it said before. But, to anyone who receives that behavior, once you recognize it, maybe it’s time for you to find a way how to deal with those person, or make the most of possible changes to free yourself from that kind of situations …. Because, you are deserved to be happy, you are deserved to be “you”.